Wednesday, October 21, 2009

All My Yesterday's

I didn't have anything really important to say today and then I got to thinking about the quotes that Kristen collected when she was first dealing with her illness. I think on the days when my brain is not in overdrive I will post some of those. This one jumped out at me today.

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."

Several years ago I googled my name and found a blog that an old schoolmate had written about me and some of my high school friends. I was shocked at the anger and venom that this person spewed onto the page. Obviously something we did was particularly hurtful. I couldn't recall any such incident. It really bothered me. I thought that I treated people fairly well but I guess not. I called one of the friends and asked if they remembered what we might have done. Neither of us could recall anything. I imagine it was teasing or laughing at something or maybe even spreading information whether truth or fiction. I wanted to try to contact this person but from the venom in the blog I don't think my efforts would be welcomed. Whatever we did the hurt was already done. I've prayed for this person since then to find freedom from the anger and bitterness. If I'm ever face to face with this person I will apologize. I want them to be able to see me and know I am sincere. Kristen's quote makes me think of this person. After 25 years this person has not been able to let go of how I made them feel. I can not go back and change yesterday. I can only change who I am today.